Happy Father’s Day!
"My father gave me the
greatest gift anyone could give another person: he believed in me."- Jim
Valvano
by Dr Zero
Honor is essential to the
maintenance of a free society. We learn about honor from our fathers.
When the duties of fatherhood
are widely dismissed, or rendered poorly, our understanding of honor is
diluted… and freedom soon begins to wither.
This is not to belittle the
importance of mothers. Many single mothers do a spectacular job of providing
their children with an understanding of personal honor. We can respect and
celebrate the achievements of extraordinary individuals, without blinding
ourselves to the effect of broad trends upon vast populations. Both fathers and
mothers are uniquely important. Our society is suffering from a pronounced
deficit of fatherhood.
There are many ways to define
honor. I suggest viewing it as an expression of faith, in
both yourself and others. An honorable man or woman displays honesty and
integrity because they believe others deserve such treatment.
It is a sign of faith in other people that we deal honorably with them, and
presume they will do the same, unless they prove otherwise. Honor is also a
gesture of respect we offer to ourselves, because we have faith that we can
succeed without deceit and savagery. If you truly respect yourself, you believe
you can win without
cheating.
A good father reveals the
nature of honor to his sons and daughters through his conduct. He is loyal to
his wife and children, despite the easy temptations offered by the modern
world. He works to build a better future for them, rather than
waiting for it to be dropped in his lap, or demanding others provide it for
him. He rejoices in this task, and his joy is so obvious that his family
forgives his occasional moments of weariness or frustration. Through marriage,
he has chosen duty over indulgence. He sees the intricate beauty of permanence,
when the flickering neon light of passing fancy is more obvious. Honor is one
of the many frequencies of love.
The absence of a father is a
terrible burden for children, and their mother, to bear. I know, because I’m one
of the many children who grew up without my father in the house. It’s a pain
that is not always easy to understand. What’s missing is too big to
be seen clearly. Generations have grown up listening to the seductive lie that
fathers are less than critical. They are portrayed as a dangerous accessory,
prone to explosion and meltdown, easily replaced by a wad of cash or a
government check. Some men have disgraced themselves by allowing this lie to
spread, because it suits their convenience. Some women spread it because they
have lost faith in the human race, and believe they armor themselves against an
inevitable tragedy.
The opponents of freedom
spread this lie because they understand honor sustains liberty, and
it flows from the loyal union between fathers and mothers. Honorable people
carry their freedom with dignity. They understand the difference between
charity and dependence. They are energized with faith in themselves, which
makes them courageous enough to take risks. Honor builds trust between individuals,
enhancing the value of voluntary cooperation.
The honor we inherit from our
fathers makes us adventurers, explorers, architects, and paladins. Without it,
too many people become predatory, or sessile. Either way, those people are clay
to be molded by the will of others. When we act in the name of our fathers, we
bear the strength of history. Deprived of this strength, many are trapped
forever in the present moment, with past and future beyond their reach. A good
father teaches us that the past and future come as a set.
Some fathers are absent
without ever leaving the house. To them, I would say that fatherhood is your
greatest opportunity to testify, before all Creation, that you are not
a beast. Follow its difficult path, in the company of your wife and
children, and you may come to understand the true meaning of forever… and
then I will envy you, until I am fortunate enough to join you. If you grew up
without a father, then I hope you answer the challenge to give your children
what you and I did not have. An honorable man understands the world is not
fated to lose its battle against entropy. He knows he can help his children
make it better. Look upon them, and understand: you are indispensable.
Happy Father’s Day!